It’s fun and it feels good! No argument there. Sex can be wonderful!
Reduce stress. Most people feel very relaxed after a positive sexual encounter. While masturbation may release sexual tension, research tells us that having sex with a partner is generally much more physiologically satisfying than sex alone.
Deepen your intimacy with your partner. During orgasm, oxytocin (sometimes called the “cuddle” hormone) is released. Research has documented the importance of oxytocin in strengthening the emotional bonds between two people.
Improve health. Sex has been shown to lower blood pressure, improve sleep, burn calories, improve bladder control, and reduce the risk of prostate cancer.
To try and impress someone. You only have once to make a first impression and not everyone will be enchanted with someone who jumps in the sack right away.
To fit in. Maybe you think that “everyone’s doing it.” Actually, 26% of UA students have never had vaginal intercourse, while 76% have never had anal intercourse (2019 Health & Wellness Survey). There are plenty of other things to do besides having sex. And many of them don’t involve getting naked.
To try and “keep” someone. Maybe you don’t want to “do it” but you have sex hoping that your intimate tryst will guarantee that your special someone will stick around longer. Do you really want to keep somebody who may be using you only for their sexual pleasure?
Because you’re feeling pressured to have sex. You are in charge of your body and decisions about it. If you don’t want to have sex with someone, that’s okay. Your partner(s) must respect your decision.